Dear Two Thousand and Ten:
It was truly a pleasure to be able to see your coming and I pray I see your exit and the birth of a new year. I don't take any day that I continue to be on this Earth lightly for it is truly a blessing and a miracle to be able to see each day and a honor to live another year.
You my dear friend are a year I will never forget. I married the love of my life and watched him turn the big 3-0, I lost a very close family member, opened up a new chapter with another family member, let go of some baggage, came to some realizations about myself and my character and finally, I was blessed with the gift of life.
So you see, though you will be gone in a couple of days, the things I've learned and experienced during your tenure, I will carry with me always. Yes, we've had our ups and downs, but such is life.
I can truly say without a doubt that I'm happy to have experienced every moment of 2010. So thanks!
Oh and if you run into 2005, tell him that it is only now that I can say THANK YOU! Because of him I wouldn't be where I am now.
Anyway, take care and be blessed.
Your Friend,
Tam
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Thursday, December 16, 2010
My Journey Ended
So back in August (yes I dumb late) I cut all my locks out. *Waiting for initial shock to be over....* Great! Of course most folks' first question was "why?" I'm sorry am I not allowed to cut my own hair?! LOL...yes I must admit the constant stream of "why's" started to annoy me (yes I'm easily annoyed...sue me!) But after a while I realized that maybe folks wanted to see if there was more to the story...was I going through something, etc.
Well honestly, I just wanted a change. I've been natural for 5 almost 6 years and lock'd for 4 almost 5 years. I colored, layered and even cut my locks shorter and I just wasn't satisfied. I guess I wanted a new me to go along with my new married life.
Of course now I look back at photos and wonder to myself...what was I thinking!?! I stare in the mirror each day thinking to myself, what in the world am I going to do with my bushy, dry hair?! Now, I'm not gonna lie, I have considered going back to the creamy crack (i.e, relaxer) *Pausing again for the shock....* and we're back.
See the only reason I locked my hair in the first place was because 6 years ago there weren't a lot of places you could go and get your hair done unless you wanted to slap a relaxer in it. So I figured if I wanted to stay natural that locks was the best decision. Now, in 2010 there are so many natural salons that I have a hard time choosing where I should go! LOL. The problem now is, well....its a recession and I'm cheap! I can't afford to spend (nor do I want to) money every two weeks to get my hair straightened or done. I just can't and won't.
So, I feel like I'm just stuck! In the next couple of days I plan to get braids, but this is just a temporary solution to the problem. I guess I could always go back to having Sisterlocks, you know start the whole journey again. But that is a huge up front cost, not to mention I just don't want to do my own hair anymore....been there done that and I'm over it.
Now, I know what you must be thinking...put up or shut up! I know, but again, the question remains to be natural or to be relaxed? Will I be a traitor to my natural brothers and sisters if I go back to the creamy crack?!?
*Sigh*....stay tuned :)
Well honestly, I just wanted a change. I've been natural for 5 almost 6 years and lock'd for 4 almost 5 years. I colored, layered and even cut my locks shorter and I just wasn't satisfied. I guess I wanted a new me to go along with my new married life.
Of course now I look back at photos and wonder to myself...what was I thinking!?! I stare in the mirror each day thinking to myself, what in the world am I going to do with my bushy, dry hair?! Now, I'm not gonna lie, I have considered going back to the creamy crack (i.e, relaxer) *Pausing again for the shock....* and we're back.
See the only reason I locked my hair in the first place was because 6 years ago there weren't a lot of places you could go and get your hair done unless you wanted to slap a relaxer in it. So I figured if I wanted to stay natural that locks was the best decision. Now, in 2010 there are so many natural salons that I have a hard time choosing where I should go! LOL. The problem now is, well....its a recession and I'm cheap! I can't afford to spend (nor do I want to) money every two weeks to get my hair straightened or done. I just can't and won't.
So, I feel like I'm just stuck! In the next couple of days I plan to get braids, but this is just a temporary solution to the problem. I guess I could always go back to having Sisterlocks, you know start the whole journey again. But that is a huge up front cost, not to mention I just don't want to do my own hair anymore....been there done that and I'm over it.
Now, I know what you must be thinking...put up or shut up! I know, but again, the question remains to be natural or to be relaxed? Will I be a traitor to my natural brothers and sisters if I go back to the creamy crack?!?
*Sigh*....stay tuned :)
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
A Reminder To: Calm Down, Shut Up And Quit Trippin!
Ello there! I received an email today and I wanted to share with all of my followers and lurkers :) Honestly, it reminded me once again that God is faithful and any promise HE makes is like a check you can take to the bank and deposit at any time! No need to worry that that joint will bounce! LOL.
Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God."
So many times we make situations more than they are
due to our anxiety,
CALM DOWN ! God has your life under control; He knows
how to handle even the seemingly complex situation
with ease.
SHUT UP ! Stop having pity parties and talking about
your business all the time; don't you know that the
power of death and life is in the tongue! Stop
speaking negative things into existence in your life
and in others.
QUIT TRIPPIN' ! When you look at your situations
through your eyes, you often read more into the
situation than what is there. It's not as bad as you
think particularly if God is in your life; Stop over
analyzing your life.
Be courageous
2 Timothy 1:7 - "For God hath not given us the spirit
of fear; but of power, and of Love, and of a sound
mind.
Fear is not of God. Have the courage to step out on
faith and do the seemingly impossible. Start your own
business; go into the ministry; apply for that
promotion; anything that you've been afraid to do and
you know that God has called you to do - JUST DO IT!
Have confidence
Philippians 4:13 - "I can do all things through Christ
which strengthens me."
Remember, greater is He that's within you than he
that's in the world. You have the power of the most
High God working in you, and you have His Son steadily
making intercession for you. You have nothing to worry
about! Walk with your head up! You say you have low
self-esteem; somebody told you that you'd never amount
to anything; the devil is a liar! Know that you are
somebody not because Jesus said it, but because you
are a child of The King!
Walk in the VICTORY !
Romans 8:28 - "And we know that all things work
together for good to them that love God, to them who
are the called according to His purpose."
Does anything else need to be said?
The jury has been out and the verdict is in - YOU WIN!
In your finances - YOU WIN!
On your job - YOU WIN!
In your relationships (married, single, divorced,
family, friends) -YOU WIN!!
In your health - YOU WIN!
God has already worked it out for you. It may not come
the way you think it should come (or when you think it
should), but remember - CALM DOWN, SHUT UP, AND QUIT
TRIPPIN '! He's working it out for "YOUR" good (in His
time).
Do not ask the Lord to guide your
footsteps, if you
are not willing to move your feet!
And that's the Gospel Truth! Be blessed folks!
Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God."
So many times we make situations more than they are
due to our anxiety,
CALM DOWN ! God has your life under control; He knows
how to handle even the seemingly complex situation
with ease.
SHUT UP ! Stop having pity parties and talking about
your business all the time; don't you know that the
power of death and life is in the tongue! Stop
speaking negative things into existence in your life
and in others.
QUIT TRIPPIN' ! When you look at your situations
through your eyes, you often read more into the
situation than what is there. It's not as bad as you
think particularly if God is in your life; Stop over
analyzing your life.
Be courageous
2 Timothy 1:7 - "For God hath not given us the spirit
of fear; but of power, and of Love, and of a sound
mind.
Fear is not of God. Have the courage to step out on
faith and do the seemingly impossible. Start your own
business; go into the ministry; apply for that
promotion; anything that you've been afraid to do and
you know that God has called you to do - JUST DO IT!
Have confidence
Philippians 4:13 - "I can do all things through Christ
which strengthens me."
Remember, greater is He that's within you than he
that's in the world. You have the power of the most
High God working in you, and you have His Son steadily
making intercession for you. You have nothing to worry
about! Walk with your head up! You say you have low
self-esteem; somebody told you that you'd never amount
to anything; the devil is a liar! Know that you are
somebody not because Jesus said it, but because you
are a child of The King!
Walk in the VICTORY !
Romans 8:28 - "And we know that all things work
together for good to them that love God, to them who
are the called according to His purpose."
Does anything else need to be said?
The jury has been out and the verdict is in - YOU WIN!
In your finances - YOU WIN!
On your job - YOU WIN!
In your relationships (married, single, divorced,
family, friends) -YOU WIN!!
In your health - YOU WIN!
God has already worked it out for you. It may not come
the way you think it should come (or when you think it
should), but remember - CALM DOWN, SHUT UP, AND QUIT
TRIPPIN '! He's working it out for "YOUR" good (in His
time).
Do not ask the Lord to guide your
footsteps, if you
are not willing to move your feet!
And that's the Gospel Truth! Be blessed folks!
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
My Epiphany
Sup folks! So whilst sitting in traffic during my rainy morning commute, I had an epiphany. I told myself that I should remain positive and rooted in the fact that I WILL get a new job and all money issues will work themselves out, even if I don't understand or see how that will happen.
But then I started thinking about why I job hop so much. Now, if you know me, you know that I don't like to stay at any one place for too long. Basically, I put in my year and then I'm ready to bounce. I used to think that I was just inpatient, but now I feel like its deeper than that.
Honestly, I admitted to myself (about a month ago) that I have NO idea what it is I want to do with my life. I guess I've always secretly felt this way, but just never wanted to admit it for fear of ridicule and then constant questioning. But on the reals, I don't think there is anything wrong with not knowing. None of us know when our last days on Earth is going to be, or if we'll ever get married, have kids, be rich, etc. We hope for all of these things and want these things but we never really know. So, I have officially concluded that its totally okay to have no idea what you want to do. Hell, its a big decision I mean now a days, who graduates from college and holds the same career until they retire....okay well probably some people, but not this versatile young woman.
So, what does this have to do with my job hopping? Well to be frank, no job I've ever held was a challenge to me. I need a constant challenge in my life or I'll get bored. *shrugs* I guess its the Gemini in me. Further not only do these jobs not challenge me, but there is no room to grow, no promotion no fast track (or even a slow one) to the top. I'm sorry but last I checked, I spent an agonizing 2 years in graduate school. Blood, sweat, and plenty of tears went into that degree and don't even get me started on undergrad. Bottom line is, I didn't spend 6 years of my life becoming a highly educated individual to sit in a mediocre job for 30 years making someone else rich while I'm barely getting a piece of the pie. HA! You've got to be kidding me!
In conclusion if I were to remain in the job force, a position would have to involve several challenges, room for growth and promotions, a fast-paced work environment, and excellent benefits (i.e., profit sharing, plenty of leave, family-friendly environment, company-paid health care...etc.)
I ran into a friend of a friend this past weekend. She is doing her own event planning business and I'm sure she'll be a complete success! She informed me that she thought I had my own business. My reply to her was "I wish." Well I'm starting to ask myself, why wish?! It's time I sat down listed out the things I like to do and the things I'm good at and figure out how I can create a business out of it. I have a few thoughts but I need to narrow it down.
At this point in my life I am realizing that the whole asking for leave and the 7:30-3:30 just isn't for me. Hopefully I can find and or surround myself with individuals who will help guide me to wherever it is that I need and want to be....FINALLY!
But then I started thinking about why I job hop so much. Now, if you know me, you know that I don't like to stay at any one place for too long. Basically, I put in my year and then I'm ready to bounce. I used to think that I was just inpatient, but now I feel like its deeper than that.
Honestly, I admitted to myself (about a month ago) that I have NO idea what it is I want to do with my life. I guess I've always secretly felt this way, but just never wanted to admit it for fear of ridicule and then constant questioning. But on the reals, I don't think there is anything wrong with not knowing. None of us know when our last days on Earth is going to be, or if we'll ever get married, have kids, be rich, etc. We hope for all of these things and want these things but we never really know. So, I have officially concluded that its totally okay to have no idea what you want to do. Hell, its a big decision I mean now a days, who graduates from college and holds the same career until they retire....okay well probably some people, but not this versatile young woman.
So, what does this have to do with my job hopping? Well to be frank, no job I've ever held was a challenge to me. I need a constant challenge in my life or I'll get bored. *shrugs* I guess its the Gemini in me. Further not only do these jobs not challenge me, but there is no room to grow, no promotion no fast track (or even a slow one) to the top. I'm sorry but last I checked, I spent an agonizing 2 years in graduate school. Blood, sweat, and plenty of tears went into that degree and don't even get me started on undergrad. Bottom line is, I didn't spend 6 years of my life becoming a highly educated individual to sit in a mediocre job for 30 years making someone else rich while I'm barely getting a piece of the pie. HA! You've got to be kidding me!
In conclusion if I were to remain in the job force, a position would have to involve several challenges, room for growth and promotions, a fast-paced work environment, and excellent benefits (i.e., profit sharing, plenty of leave, family-friendly environment, company-paid health care...etc.)
I ran into a friend of a friend this past weekend. She is doing her own event planning business and I'm sure she'll be a complete success! She informed me that she thought I had my own business. My reply to her was "I wish." Well I'm starting to ask myself, why wish?! It's time I sat down listed out the things I like to do and the things I'm good at and figure out how I can create a business out of it. I have a few thoughts but I need to narrow it down.
At this point in my life I am realizing that the whole asking for leave and the 7:30-3:30 just isn't for me. Hopefully I can find and or surround myself with individuals who will help guide me to wherever it is that I need and want to be....FINALLY!
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
When BFFdom Goes Out of Style
Hey folks! My lack of blogging is not a lack of desire to do so but just lack of topics of interest. In case you haven't caught the theme thus far, I blog about things that are on my mind on in my heart. I guess I just haven't anything of significance to share....well I do but some things are a little too much info for the blogosphere.
Anyway, I've noticed that my relationships with people I considered close to me are starting to change or have changed. Most of the changes I can safely say I am not happy with. But I try to be positive about people who I deem close to me exiting my life or pulling away from me in one form or fashion....
In fact, I have a my very own friend mantra: some friends are here for a day; some for a season; and others for a lifetime.
It's funny to me (well not really) how the girlfriend I've known the longest (we go back to pre-school) I barely talk to. In fact, I don't really consider her a friend...more of an acquaintance. She's a sweet as pie, but I guess we just grew a part a long time ago. Once you've grown a part can you ever really grow together again? My answer: probably not.
As I reflect over my 28 years, I realize that many of my "friends" are people that were in my life for a season. Now I know I'm not the easiest person to be around sometimes, but all in all, I still consider it a pleasure (for the most part) to be in my company. Truthfully, I can only see one of my friends being in my life for a lifetime. I have mixed emotions about that; in a way I'm ecstatic because my girl has been right there to talk me off the metaphoric ledge and celebrated the good times with me. She totally accepts me for who I am, but she's not scared to tell me girl you wrong. So its nice to know that I'll have someone like that in my life permanently. However, its also nice to have more than one person (outside of God and family) to share your thoughts with, hang with, etc. But these days I'm more of a flow wit it kinda girl plus I find that the less people know ya bizness the less DRAMA you have...LOL. So, I don't see any people being added to my friend repertoire anytime soon.
Now don't get me wrong, I appreciate the people in my life, but sometimes I feel like my relationships are unbalanced or one-sided if you will. BFFdom is a two-way street and a lot of times I feel like I give more to those friendships than the other parties do. In the past I've blamed it on technology, i.e., folks just preferring to text me, FB me, tweet me, etc. But real talk: people make time for things they want to make time for. I mean sometimes you don't really feel like picking up the phone and having a 2 hour conversation when you have so many other things going on. BUT, every now and again, it doesn't hurt to pick up the phone, or drop by to see how your friend is doing. I admit, I too have been guilty of the I'm the kinda friend that will only hit you up using technology so don't expect to hear my voice for at least 3 months, but I am making a very big effort to do better and hopefully my friends will too.
Life's too short folks and non of us are Benjamin Button! And that is my friendship confessions :)
Now I have a question: do you think in your late 20's and beyond you still have BFF's?
Anyway, I've noticed that my relationships with people I considered close to me are starting to change or have changed. Most of the changes I can safely say I am not happy with. But I try to be positive about people who I deem close to me exiting my life or pulling away from me in one form or fashion....
In fact, I have a my very own friend mantra: some friends are here for a day; some for a season; and others for a lifetime.
It's funny to me (well not really) how the girlfriend I've known the longest (we go back to pre-school) I barely talk to. In fact, I don't really consider her a friend...more of an acquaintance. She's a sweet as pie, but I guess we just grew a part a long time ago. Once you've grown a part can you ever really grow together again? My answer: probably not.
As I reflect over my 28 years, I realize that many of my "friends" are people that were in my life for a season. Now I know I'm not the easiest person to be around sometimes, but all in all, I still consider it a pleasure (for the most part) to be in my company. Truthfully, I can only see one of my friends being in my life for a lifetime. I have mixed emotions about that; in a way I'm ecstatic because my girl has been right there to talk me off the metaphoric ledge and celebrated the good times with me. She totally accepts me for who I am, but she's not scared to tell me girl you wrong. So its nice to know that I'll have someone like that in my life permanently. However, its also nice to have more than one person (outside of God and family) to share your thoughts with, hang with, etc. But these days I'm more of a flow wit it kinda girl plus I find that the less people know ya bizness the less DRAMA you have...LOL. So, I don't see any people being added to my friend repertoire anytime soon.
Now don't get me wrong, I appreciate the people in my life, but sometimes I feel like my relationships are unbalanced or one-sided if you will. BFFdom is a two-way street and a lot of times I feel like I give more to those friendships than the other parties do. In the past I've blamed it on technology, i.e., folks just preferring to text me, FB me, tweet me, etc. But real talk: people make time for things they want to make time for. I mean sometimes you don't really feel like picking up the phone and having a 2 hour conversation when you have so many other things going on. BUT, every now and again, it doesn't hurt to pick up the phone, or drop by to see how your friend is doing. I admit, I too have been guilty of the I'm the kinda friend that will only hit you up using technology so don't expect to hear my voice for at least 3 months, but I am making a very big effort to do better and hopefully my friends will too.
Life's too short folks and non of us are Benjamin Button! And that is my friendship confessions :)
Now I have a question: do you think in your late 20's and beyond you still have BFF's?
Monday, July 26, 2010
Trimming the Fat
Yes I know it's been a while. But I'm back...again! LOL. I guess you can say I haven't had much to blog about, or rather nothing I wanted to share publicly, that is until now.
So recently I've been on my big health kick! I've been "trimming the fat" around my waistline and in my social circle. Now, its time to do the same with my finances. Now, anyone who knows me, knows that I'm what you call an "el cheap-o" and with this craptastic economy who could blame me! Unfortunately, even this el cheap-o has some debt to trim. So, here are some tips i live by and I want to share to help all my bros and sistas out:
1. Car note- Banks have some great APR rates on refinancing your vehicle. The way I see it, this is what I call "dumb" dept. If you can refinance to a lower rate and pay it off sooner...great! If not at least try to refi for a lower APR rate
2. Credit cards- Well I'm sure most of you have this debt. In my opinion this is the worst because most of the time you can ONLY afford to pay the minimum payment. Trust and believe when I say paying that will get you NO WHERE! The best thing to do is debt stack. Debt stacking is when you take the lowest bill and pay that off first. While your focus is on that particular bill you can pay the minimum on the other cards.
Also, I've started trying to use cash when I can and avoid using my debit card. You will tend to spend less when you have cash...at least I will. Plus, the cash is gone immediately from your account whereas using your debit card, the bank may reserve the funds you spend, but not directly take them from your account and the next thing you know, your account is in the negative....take it from someone who's been there! stupid Wachovia...humpf
3. Partying and BS'n- Yes we all like to go out and eat with our friends, and then go to the movies, etc., etc. But we're your broke and still trying to go out...yea not a good look. Personally my peoples know what the deal is. IF I even show up to hang out, I will not be paying for any kind of entrance fee, I will not be eating anything, and IF I drink something it will be water all night with a lemon! Holla! Now, I'm not saying one should deprive themselves, but there's nothing wrong with limiting yourself for a little while.
4. Coupons/Sales- My mom's is a coupon clipping somebody! LOL I love her for it though! Try to Google online coupons for various stores and merchandise. And of course you can always do it the old fashion way like my mom's...clip those coupons and save! Oh and always shop sales w/ coupons...double the savings! I NEVER go shopping unless there is some kind of sale, I have a coupon, or I have a giftcard.
5. BUDGET- This obviously is the most important. Personally, I write out all my bills every month and add them all up. I then subtract that from my monthly income and ta-da! I now see what I have left over and depending on what it is will determine how much I will contribute towards groceries, whether or not I'll get a mani, pedi, facial, shop, etc. It's ok to be a Diva on a budget!
So, those are my tips. Love or leave em, but its what helps/helped me. Please feel free to share whatever tips you may have. I would love to learn more about how you trim your fat.
2. Credit cards- Well I'm sure most of you have this debt. In my opinion this is the worst because most of the time you can ONLY afford to pay the minimum payment. Trust and believe when I say paying that will get you NO WHERE! The best thing to do is debt stack. Debt stacking is when you take the lowest bill and pay that off first. While your focus is on that particular bill you can pay the minimum on the other cards.
Also, I've started trying to use cash when I can and avoid using my debit card. You will tend to spend less when you have cash...at least I will. Plus, the cash is gone immediately from your account whereas using your debit card, the bank may reserve the funds you spend, but not directly take them from your account and the next thing you know, your account is in the negative....take it from someone who's been there! stupid Wachovia...humpf
3. Partying and BS'n- Yes we all like to go out and eat with our friends, and then go to the movies, etc., etc. But we're your broke and still trying to go out...yea not a good look. Personally my peoples know what the deal is. IF I even show up to hang out, I will not be paying for any kind of entrance fee, I will not be eating anything, and IF I drink something it will be water all night with a lemon! Holla! Now, I'm not saying one should deprive themselves, but there's nothing wrong with limiting yourself for a little while.
4. Coupons/Sales- My mom's is a coupon clipping somebody! LOL I love her for it though! Try to Google online coupons for various stores and merchandise. And of course you can always do it the old fashion way like my mom's...clip those coupons and save! Oh and always shop sales w/ coupons...double the savings! I NEVER go shopping unless there is some kind of sale, I have a coupon, or I have a giftcard.
5. BUDGET- This obviously is the most important. Personally, I write out all my bills every month and add them all up. I then subtract that from my monthly income and ta-da! I now see what I have left over and depending on what it is will determine how much I will contribute towards groceries, whether or not I'll get a mani, pedi, facial, shop, etc. It's ok to be a Diva on a budget!
So, those are my tips. Love or leave em, but its what helps/helped me. Please feel free to share whatever tips you may have. I would love to learn more about how you trim your fat.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
The Age of Old
Morn-ting! I know I've been away! And might I say it was a happy and drama-free "away." But all things (good and bad) must come to and end and so here I am folks!
So, today I wanted to share my thoughts of impending old age...the BIG 3-0! Now I know what you must be thinking, why does she think 30 is old? Well because to me it is. Then again, you're reading the thoughts of someone who thought 25 was old and subsequently had a mild early life crisis! LOL. I know I'm a bit of a DQ, but hey, these are my thoughts and my blog so don't judge me! :p
Anyway, my hubby just turned 30 and I'm two years behind him and as of late I've been thinking to myself...you know maybe 30 isn't as bad as I think it is. I would be entitled to my 30 and over club card...LOL! Naw but seriously, I think my big hang up with 25 and here again with the 30 is not really being in a place where I thought I would be.
Don't get me wrong, I have a good life and I truly feel blessed, but there are certain areas in my life where I am not satisfied. Some things are beyond my control and I constantly remind myself that its just not time. However, other things are definitely in my control and as such, I have made the following goals for myself for the next two years:
1. Get it Tight and Get it RIGHT- YES! I'm taking my health in my own hands and making sure that by the time I'm 30, I'll look 21! :) I've already started to eat better and cut some things out of my diet. Now once I incorporate the exercise piece to this, there is NO stopping the kid!
2. Set Us FREE!- YES! By the time I'm 30, I will be debt free! Now don't get me wrong, the student loans will be here for a while, but my goal is to have my car and credit cards paid completely off! Yup, it's time to tighten that belt.
3. Vogue- YES! I gotta get a new look...now I'm not sure what this will be yet. I've already hacked away at my locs but I'm trying to decide if I want them completely gone, or if I want to let them grow out again, or if I want a new color....who knows! All I can say is that by 30, my hair and my style will be taking a turn and hopefully for the better! I don't want to wind up on one of those my friend can't dress for nothing and her hair is a mess shows! Yikes!
Those are my three goals and more will probably come into play, but for now those are my top three! See, this time around instead of complaining about how I'm not where I want to be, well I'm going to do something that I couldn't do when I was 25....take responsibility! These three goals I can control. Therefore, I will do everything I can to make sure I succeed. All the other stuff I leave to God. And you know what, if I don't accomplish these goals I can either rest in the fact that I tried my best or I can be disappointed knowing that I could have down better.
And if you know this reformed DQ, you know that the latter is not even an option! :)
So, today I wanted to share my thoughts of impending old age...the BIG 3-0! Now I know what you must be thinking, why does she think 30 is old? Well because to me it is. Then again, you're reading the thoughts of someone who thought 25 was old and subsequently had a mild early life crisis! LOL. I know I'm a bit of a DQ, but hey, these are my thoughts and my blog so don't judge me! :p
Anyway, my hubby just turned 30 and I'm two years behind him and as of late I've been thinking to myself...you know maybe 30 isn't as bad as I think it is. I would be entitled to my 30 and over club card...LOL! Naw but seriously, I think my big hang up with 25 and here again with the 30 is not really being in a place where I thought I would be.
Don't get me wrong, I have a good life and I truly feel blessed, but there are certain areas in my life where I am not satisfied. Some things are beyond my control and I constantly remind myself that its just not time. However, other things are definitely in my control and as such, I have made the following goals for myself for the next two years:
1. Get it Tight and Get it RIGHT- YES! I'm taking my health in my own hands and making sure that by the time I'm 30, I'll look 21! :) I've already started to eat better and cut some things out of my diet. Now once I incorporate the exercise piece to this, there is NO stopping the kid!
2. Set Us FREE!- YES! By the time I'm 30, I will be debt free! Now don't get me wrong, the student loans will be here for a while, but my goal is to have my car and credit cards paid completely off! Yup, it's time to tighten that belt.
3. Vogue- YES! I gotta get a new look...now I'm not sure what this will be yet. I've already hacked away at my locs but I'm trying to decide if I want them completely gone, or if I want to let them grow out again, or if I want a new color....who knows! All I can say is that by 30, my hair and my style will be taking a turn and hopefully for the better! I don't want to wind up on one of those my friend can't dress for nothing and her hair is a mess shows! Yikes!
Those are my three goals and more will probably come into play, but for now those are my top three! See, this time around instead of complaining about how I'm not where I want to be, well I'm going to do something that I couldn't do when I was 25....take responsibility! These three goals I can control. Therefore, I will do everything I can to make sure I succeed. All the other stuff I leave to God. And you know what, if I don't accomplish these goals I can either rest in the fact that I tried my best or I can be disappointed knowing that I could have down better.
And if you know this reformed DQ, you know that the latter is not even an option! :)
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
My Body My Temple
Good morning all!
So last we spoke, I had some drama! EEEK! Well, I'm happy to say that for the moment, Drama can't find me! Of course it always sneaks up on me very unexpectedly, but such as life. I gave out a healthy dose of stiff arm to all the people that brought me drama and since then DRAMA-FREE!
Anyway, for a long time, I've been involved in the never-ending battle of the bulge. Well, for the past couple of years, I've been on the losing side. See, once upon a time, I as a cheerleader, no make that THE cheerleader...yes I'm tooting my horn! LOL I never had a need to exercise outside of cheerleading because it kept me in shape. Needless to say at the age of 28, with two bad knees, wrists, a bad shoulder and back issues, my cheerleading days are over! Yup I hung up my pom-poms a long time ago. Though sometimes I do feel the need to relive my glory days, I think I've come to see that they are over :(
So, I've been on the losing end of the battle of the bulge because I find exercise to be boring and monotonous! Like walking/running on a treadmill for 30-45 mins...that is to laugh! Now I know there's Zumba, kickboxing and the like, but its not cheerleading! I know what you are thinking...."get over it!" I've tried but I can't! That is until last week...
I was having a conversation with one of my best friends and she said something to me that just resonated: "It's like I'm watching myself give myself diabetes, and that's just dumb." Wow I thought! I never thought of it that way. Now obviously diabetes, high blood pressure, heart problems, etc. run ramped in the AA community, so we all should be better take ownership of our health. But until that comment, and that conversation it hadn't occurred to me that I was doing this to myself. And that YES I have a choice and I things don't really have to be this way. I guess it comes down to ACCOUNTABILITY! I wasn't holding myself accountable for my actions I was too busy making excuses and leading myself to believe "oh diabetes won't happen to me"....riiiiiight!
So, I've decided to hold myself fully accountable from now on. Since last week, I've exercised one time...I know it may not seem like much, but I haven't done that in months! In addition, fully intend to renew my Bally's membership, and heck at $68.00 for one year, its a steal and I'd be dumb not to! Also, no more sodas! From now on just Water and OJ (if my throat hurts). I've started to take a multivitamin as well and I try not to eat after 7:00pm during the week.
As far as I can tell, I feel okay.And believe me, feeling okay is way better than how I usually feel, which is HUNGRY! But I know once I develop my cheerleading based exercise routine I'll feel even better. Then I'll have the best of both worlds! HA! The goal of all of this is to not lose weight (I mean yes I want to do that) but to feel better and treat myself better.
After all, I'm worth it and so are you!
So last we spoke, I had some drama! EEEK! Well, I'm happy to say that for the moment, Drama can't find me! Of course it always sneaks up on me very unexpectedly, but such as life. I gave out a healthy dose of stiff arm to all the people that brought me drama and since then DRAMA-FREE!
Anyway, for a long time, I've been involved in the never-ending battle of the bulge. Well, for the past couple of years, I've been on the losing side. See, once upon a time, I as a cheerleader, no make that THE cheerleader...yes I'm tooting my horn! LOL I never had a need to exercise outside of cheerleading because it kept me in shape. Needless to say at the age of 28, with two bad knees, wrists, a bad shoulder and back issues, my cheerleading days are over! Yup I hung up my pom-poms a long time ago. Though sometimes I do feel the need to relive my glory days, I think I've come to see that they are over :(
So, I've been on the losing end of the battle of the bulge because I find exercise to be boring and monotonous! Like walking/running on a treadmill for 30-45 mins...that is to laugh! Now I know there's Zumba, kickboxing and the like, but its not cheerleading! I know what you are thinking...."get over it!" I've tried but I can't! That is until last week...
I was having a conversation with one of my best friends and she said something to me that just resonated: "It's like I'm watching myself give myself diabetes, and that's just dumb." Wow I thought! I never thought of it that way. Now obviously diabetes, high blood pressure, heart problems, etc. run ramped in the AA community, so we all should be better take ownership of our health. But until that comment, and that conversation it hadn't occurred to me that I was doing this to myself. And that YES I have a choice and I things don't really have to be this way. I guess it comes down to ACCOUNTABILITY! I wasn't holding myself accountable for my actions I was too busy making excuses and leading myself to believe "oh diabetes won't happen to me"....riiiiiight!
So, I've decided to hold myself fully accountable from now on. Since last week, I've exercised one time...I know it may not seem like much, but I haven't done that in months! In addition, fully intend to renew my Bally's membership, and heck at $68.00 for one year, its a steal and I'd be dumb not to! Also, no more sodas! From now on just Water and OJ (if my throat hurts). I've started to take a multivitamin as well and I try not to eat after 7:00pm during the week.
As far as I can tell, I feel okay.And believe me, feeling okay is way better than how I usually feel, which is HUNGRY! But I know once I develop my cheerleading based exercise routine I'll feel even better. Then I'll have the best of both worlds! HA! The goal of all of this is to not lose weight (I mean yes I want to do that) but to feel better and treat myself better.
After all, I'm worth it and so are you!
Monday, June 14, 2010
Can't Save the Unsaveable
Morn-ting everyone! So this blog is a follow-up if you will to my last one. So my last blog had a big message, a message that apparently a lot of folks needed to hear. I got a lot of feedback on it...thanks for reading! And more importantly, thanks for receiving the message.
Unfortunately, when I birthed my last blog, the inspiration behind it was only a single person. It is not surprising however, that this person is probably not even reading, and even if they did read, they probably wouldn't receive the message.
So in the spirit of closure I will say this, to me, being a true friend to someone is pointing out that they don't have a parachute when they are about to jump off a cliff. However, after laboring about my feelings on this particular friend's choices, I've decided that sometimes you just have to let the person jump parachute-less and all. It pains me to do this because it goes against what I typically would do, but I've come to a point where I feel like I've done all I can....maybe too much! I say that because I feel this person keeps me at a distance, I guess maybe they realize that what I'm saying is true, but they just refuse to face it...stubborn ass!
If you are content in wondering the forest of life without a flashlight, be my guest. Personally, I wish I had more friends like me. Because if you can't save yourself, then I certainly can't save you.
Oh well, such is life. Sad that folks gotta learn the hard way. I pray that they do indeed eventually learn because only fools make the same mistakes over and over and over again and expect a different and better outcome.
Signed,
A FORMER Fool
Unfortunately, when I birthed my last blog, the inspiration behind it was only a single person. It is not surprising however, that this person is probably not even reading, and even if they did read, they probably wouldn't receive the message.
So in the spirit of closure I will say this, to me, being a true friend to someone is pointing out that they don't have a parachute when they are about to jump off a cliff. However, after laboring about my feelings on this particular friend's choices, I've decided that sometimes you just have to let the person jump parachute-less and all. It pains me to do this because it goes against what I typically would do, but I've come to a point where I feel like I've done all I can....maybe too much! I say that because I feel this person keeps me at a distance, I guess maybe they realize that what I'm saying is true, but they just refuse to face it...stubborn ass!
If you are content in wondering the forest of life without a flashlight, be my guest. Personally, I wish I had more friends like me. Because if you can't save yourself, then I certainly can't save you.
Oh well, such is life. Sad that folks gotta learn the hard way. I pray that they do indeed eventually learn because only fools make the same mistakes over and over and over again and expect a different and better outcome.
Signed,
A FORMER Fool
Monday, June 7, 2010
In Your Time or His?
As I lazily laid around yesterday watching the hubby get dressed to go out, I noticed that one of his Bibles was on the bed. Not having any idea what I wanted to read inside, I flipped it opened and ironically it opened to Ecclesiastes 3:
There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
Back in 2004, I was 22 years of age and had just graduated from college. I was full of hopes and dreams of marriage, kids, great career, etc. I just knew that by the time I reached 24/25 I'd be married and happily on my way to being a Mom with a nice house, dogs, etc. Sadly, a dose of reality set in the following year when I was at a job I hated with a supervisor that wanted nothing more than to see me fail. I made very little money and was still living at home with the parents. The latter was something I considered to be an embarrassment, because I had never lived on my own and I thought it was more than time to move-out, but I couldn't afford to.
To add insult to injury, my love life left much to be desired. I was with someone who claimed they loved me, but I kinda felt like he was trying to mold me into a shell of myself, which I allowed at the time, but I couldn't figure out why. I now know that I was settling to just have someone to call my own. Something that I didn't stop doing until 2007....sad, but very true.
During this period of my life, I was very into church. I made sure I was there every Sunday, with my tithes in hand. Sang songs, clapped my hands and wrote down great points the pastor made so I could refer to them later. But as my life took a turn for the worst, I began to ask myself...why I am bothering? God clearly is ignoring me and my situations while blessing those who don't even acknowledge him. So, I slowly began to drift away into a sea of depression and desperation which led me to have a negative attitude and to be alone with no man to call my own for the next two years.
Finally in 2007, after getting a better job and a home of my own, I decided to let go of the negativity and baggage and explore just hanging out, nothing serious, just a movie and dinner with a companion from time to time. Basically, keeping it very light. I had come to the realization that I love myself too much to be treated any ole' kinda way. Well, the second month of 2007, I met my now husband.
Now, in 2010 I can appreciate the two year hiatus and all the crap that took place between 2005 and 2007 because it led me to where I am today. Now why did I take you on that journey through my life? To share with you a few truths that I learned along the way:
1. Be satisfied with where you are and what you have now. Trust me, it can get and probably will get worse before it gets better.
2. Don't miss out on your blessing because its not what you want. God gives us what we need and a little bit of what we want (sometimes). Again, trust me! If you're in a situation where you're unhappy, its not the final destination in your life, just a layover, but the length of that layover will be determined by your attitude.
3. Like the passage says, there is a time for everything! Just because someone else is receiving their blessing, don't compare your life to theirs. All you see is their glory, but you have no idea the story behind it. Your time is not God's time.
Anyway, that's my story. Now, I'm not saying waiting patiently for your time is easy because its not. No one wants to be stuck in a rut that they can't see there way out of. But sometimes its not meant for us to see, but for us to just have faith and know that things will work out even if it seems impossible. If something doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be and we should just press forward.
I have a few friends that are struggling with Time and I hope they receive this message and learn from my mistakes. Five years seems like a long time, but compared to 28 years, its a drop in the bucket.
There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
Back in 2004, I was 22 years of age and had just graduated from college. I was full of hopes and dreams of marriage, kids, great career, etc. I just knew that by the time I reached 24/25 I'd be married and happily on my way to being a Mom with a nice house, dogs, etc. Sadly, a dose of reality set in the following year when I was at a job I hated with a supervisor that wanted nothing more than to see me fail. I made very little money and was still living at home with the parents. The latter was something I considered to be an embarrassment, because I had never lived on my own and I thought it was more than time to move-out, but I couldn't afford to.
To add insult to injury, my love life left much to be desired. I was with someone who claimed they loved me, but I kinda felt like he was trying to mold me into a shell of myself, which I allowed at the time, but I couldn't figure out why. I now know that I was settling to just have someone to call my own. Something that I didn't stop doing until 2007....sad, but very true.
During this period of my life, I was very into church. I made sure I was there every Sunday, with my tithes in hand. Sang songs, clapped my hands and wrote down great points the pastor made so I could refer to them later. But as my life took a turn for the worst, I began to ask myself...why I am bothering? God clearly is ignoring me and my situations while blessing those who don't even acknowledge him. So, I slowly began to drift away into a sea of depression and desperation which led me to have a negative attitude and to be alone with no man to call my own for the next two years.
Finally in 2007, after getting a better job and a home of my own, I decided to let go of the negativity and baggage and explore just hanging out, nothing serious, just a movie and dinner with a companion from time to time. Basically, keeping it very light. I had come to the realization that I love myself too much to be treated any ole' kinda way. Well, the second month of 2007, I met my now husband.
Now, in 2010 I can appreciate the two year hiatus and all the crap that took place between 2005 and 2007 because it led me to where I am today. Now why did I take you on that journey through my life? To share with you a few truths that I learned along the way:
1. Be satisfied with where you are and what you have now. Trust me, it can get and probably will get worse before it gets better.
2. Don't miss out on your blessing because its not what you want. God gives us what we need and a little bit of what we want (sometimes). Again, trust me! If you're in a situation where you're unhappy, its not the final destination in your life, just a layover, but the length of that layover will be determined by your attitude.
3. Like the passage says, there is a time for everything! Just because someone else is receiving their blessing, don't compare your life to theirs. All you see is their glory, but you have no idea the story behind it. Your time is not God's time.
Anyway, that's my story. Now, I'm not saying waiting patiently for your time is easy because its not. No one wants to be stuck in a rut that they can't see there way out of. But sometimes its not meant for us to see, but for us to just have faith and know that things will work out even if it seems impossible. If something doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be and we should just press forward.
I have a few friends that are struggling with Time and I hope they receive this message and learn from my mistakes. Five years seems like a long time, but compared to 28 years, its a drop in the bucket.
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
If Ya Real And Ya Know It Clap Ya Hands *Clap Clap*
G'day all! Hope the Memorial weekend was fantastic! Mine left much to be desired, but at least it ended on a brighter note than it began so for that I am thankful.
So this past May was a very interesting and trying month for me in many ways. But as always I try to look on the bright side of things, even though sometimes it can be a wee bit hard to see. For example, my great-aunt who I was very close to passed away. Needless to say I was very upset for a while. Everyone around me kept saying that "oh she lived a long life...at least she's not suffering, etc." I didn't care about any of that...she's gone and I don't want her to be and that was it! Couldn't really see past that for a minute. But like all things, that passed. Her death made me realize that life is too short and one minute you're here, the next you could be gone. A very simple concept in theory, but one we tend to forget all the time. Now, its unfortunate that someone dear to me had to leave my life in order for me to remember this, but at least I did indeed remember.
So with this renewed concept in mind, I re-declared who I am as a person...REAL! Therefore, those who are not real or cannot take me being real with them I've decided to bid them adieu! Doesn't mean I have any less love for ya, just means you can't be a part of my life like ya used to be. Sorry, but real recognize real and VivalaDiva can only associate herself with those like her :D
Another interesting thing happened in the month of May was my want and need to better my relationship with God. As always when you draw closer to God some folks in your life fall by the wayside, especially those you thought you were close to. Sad, but it always happens. However, I never worry about people because they come and they go; some are in your life for a season, and some a lifetime. I feel blessed to have known folks, even when they have wronged me, because believe it or not, wrong people help you recognize "right" people. Consequently, when you meet the "right" people, they help you recognize the wrong people disguised as "right" people. Following me?
Anyway, I'm ex-communicating the wrong right people for the right right people :) So if you find yourself talking less and less to VivalaDiva, now you know why....
Oh and the most important lesson of May: loose lips sink ships! I think I'll be keeping my secrets between me, my hubby, and God. Because people CLEARLY cannot be trusted.
Peace
So this past May was a very interesting and trying month for me in many ways. But as always I try to look on the bright side of things, even though sometimes it can be a wee bit hard to see. For example, my great-aunt who I was very close to passed away. Needless to say I was very upset for a while. Everyone around me kept saying that "oh she lived a long life...at least she's not suffering, etc." I didn't care about any of that...she's gone and I don't want her to be and that was it! Couldn't really see past that for a minute. But like all things, that passed. Her death made me realize that life is too short and one minute you're here, the next you could be gone. A very simple concept in theory, but one we tend to forget all the time. Now, its unfortunate that someone dear to me had to leave my life in order for me to remember this, but at least I did indeed remember.
So with this renewed concept in mind, I re-declared who I am as a person...REAL! Therefore, those who are not real or cannot take me being real with them I've decided to bid them adieu! Doesn't mean I have any less love for ya, just means you can't be a part of my life like ya used to be. Sorry, but real recognize real and VivalaDiva can only associate herself with those like her :D
Another interesting thing happened in the month of May was my want and need to better my relationship with God. As always when you draw closer to God some folks in your life fall by the wayside, especially those you thought you were close to. Sad, but it always happens. However, I never worry about people because they come and they go; some are in your life for a season, and some a lifetime. I feel blessed to have known folks, even when they have wronged me, because believe it or not, wrong people help you recognize "right" people. Consequently, when you meet the "right" people, they help you recognize the wrong people disguised as "right" people. Following me?
Anyway, I'm ex-communicating the wrong right people for the right right people :) So if you find yourself talking less and less to VivalaDiva, now you know why....
Oh and the most important lesson of May: loose lips sink ships! I think I'll be keeping my secrets between me, my hubby, and God. Because people CLEARLY cannot be trusted.
Peace
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Shifting Your Perspective
So yes its my birthday! YAY ME! The nerve of me coming to work today on MY day...I can't even remember the last time I did such a thing. I personally believe your birth date is your personal holiday. But alas I'm counting down to my honeymoon/vacay so I had to save some leave...so here I am!
As I was driving into work today...slightly pissed about coming into work my whole attitude suddenly changed. I started to feel thankful for even having a job to come in to. Feeling blessed to have such a wonderful, thoughtful and loving partner in my husband. And feeling great that I have such awesome friends. So my negative attitude stopped dead in its tracks and I took a little moment just to thank God for living to see 28 years of age and just for everything HE has done for me and continues to do for me.
So, my purpose in writing this blog is to share this blessing: although things can always be worse, for those of us that have a real relationship with God, even when things look bad, God is just making the circumstances just right for things to be not just better, but AWESOME and WONDERFUL beyond your comprehension! Hopefully this will put a smile on your face if you're feeling down :)
Happy Memorial folks! Have a great long weekend ON PURPOSE!
As I was driving into work today...slightly pissed about coming into work my whole attitude suddenly changed. I started to feel thankful for even having a job to come in to. Feeling blessed to have such a wonderful, thoughtful and loving partner in my husband. And feeling great that I have such awesome friends. So my negative attitude stopped dead in its tracks and I took a little moment just to thank God for living to see 28 years of age and just for everything HE has done for me and continues to do for me.
So, my purpose in writing this blog is to share this blessing: although things can always be worse, for those of us that have a real relationship with God, even when things look bad, God is just making the circumstances just right for things to be not just better, but AWESOME and WONDERFUL beyond your comprehension! Hopefully this will put a smile on your face if you're feeling down :)
Happy Memorial folks! Have a great long weekend ON PURPOSE!
Thursday, May 20, 2010
The Story of a Passive Cyber Bully
Well not really one story, but more like VivalaDiva's annoyance at people who a passively trying to talk about you all on FB, Gchat, Twitter, MySpace (do people still use that?), etc.
IT REALLY GRINDS MY GEARS!!!!
Like seriously folks can we all just live by the golden rule: if you don't have something nice to say, say it to their face!
I don't understand it. I've always been about being REAL, so I truly don't understand the "smile-in-your-face BUT talk-about-you-on-a-social media outlet" There you are perusing FB status, playing games, g-chatting it up, ya know not doing any work what-so-ever. And you happen across that friend or frien-enemy and they going on you in their status...WTF? Can't stand it! Like let's be grown-ups (since we always claim to be so grown) and tell the person straight-up how you feel.
Truth be told, if you straight up with a person that's weight off of your shoulders. Now if said person who you were straight up with goes and talks about you on one of their many statuses ...that's their hang-up. Leave the situation alone. You've done your part, you were honest!
Think how much better the world would be if we would all grow up, be honest and straight forward with one another! *Sigh*
Hey, sometimes the truth hurts! *Shrugs*
IT REALLY GRINDS MY GEARS!!!!
Like seriously folks can we all just live by the golden rule: if you don't have something nice to say, say it to their face!
I don't understand it. I've always been about being REAL, so I truly don't understand the "smile-in-your-face BUT talk-about-you-on-a-social media outlet" There you are perusing FB status, playing games, g-chatting it up, ya know not doing any work what-so-ever. And you happen across that friend or frien-enemy and they going on you in their status...WTF? Can't stand it! Like let's be grown-ups (since we always claim to be so grown) and tell the person straight-up how you feel.
Truth be told, if you straight up with a person that's weight off of your shoulders. Now if said person who you were straight up with goes and talks about you on one of their many statuses ...that's their hang-up. Leave the situation alone. You've done your part, you were honest!
Think how much better the world would be if we would all grow up, be honest and straight forward with one another! *Sigh*
Hey, sometimes the truth hurts! *Shrugs*
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Seeking Clarity...AGAIN!
Hello there!
This is my first blog so welcome and I hope you come back! If not well, it was nice of you to lurk anyway.
So for about the 5th time in my life I'm seeking clarity. In the past I've sought clarity on relationships and love. This time I'm seeking clarity on life. See a lot has happened this year (I's married now! lol...and the death of a close loved one) that has made me question my perspective on things....one of which is how I view people.
Don't get me wrong, I have some GREAT people in my life (shout out to my grad chap, my LSz, and my BFFs...yall kno who yall are, family, and last but not least my new hubby) BUT a lot of times I find myself trying to be everything to everyone and I'm slowly starting to realize that it just doesn't work that way. Honestly, for a huge part of my life I've been running to and from trying hard to make folks happy but I wasn't really making ME happy. And on the reals, I'm sick of it. I feel unappreciated! And at the end of the day if I'm ever laid up in an ER with an IV in my arm, there are only a hand-full of people that will be there for me. Those people are my priority and everyone else can just fall in line!
So, in thinking about my new attitude, some key things I plan do to are:
1. I'm returning to my old straight to the point, blunt and sarcastic self
2. NO more sparing people's feelings; sometimes the truth hurts...sorry!
3. My top two priorities are my relationship with God and my husband. Everything else is and will be secondary.
4. I will do a better job of living my life like there is no tomorrow because no one knows their check-out date.
This is my first blog so welcome and I hope you come back! If not well, it was nice of you to lurk anyway.
So for about the 5th time in my life I'm seeking clarity. In the past I've sought clarity on relationships and love. This time I'm seeking clarity on life. See a lot has happened this year (I's married now! lol...and the death of a close loved one) that has made me question my perspective on things....one of which is how I view people.
Don't get me wrong, I have some GREAT people in my life (shout out to my grad chap, my LSz, and my BFFs...yall kno who yall are, family, and last but not least my new hubby) BUT a lot of times I find myself trying to be everything to everyone and I'm slowly starting to realize that it just doesn't work that way. Honestly, for a huge part of my life I've been running to and from trying hard to make folks happy but I wasn't really making ME happy. And on the reals, I'm sick of it. I feel unappreciated! And at the end of the day if I'm ever laid up in an ER with an IV in my arm, there are only a hand-full of people that will be there for me. Those people are my priority and everyone else can just fall in line!
So, in thinking about my new attitude, some key things I plan do to are:
1. I'm returning to my old straight to the point, blunt and sarcastic self
2. NO more sparing people's feelings; sometimes the truth hurts...sorry!
3. My top two priorities are my relationship with God and my husband. Everything else is and will be secondary.
4. I will do a better job of living my life like there is no tomorrow because no one knows their check-out date.
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