Hey folks! My lack of blogging is not a lack of desire to do so but just lack of topics of interest. In case you haven't caught the theme thus far, I blog about things that are on my mind on in my heart. I guess I just haven't anything of significance to share....well I do but some things are a little too much info for the blogosphere.
Anyway, I've noticed that my relationships with people I considered close to me are starting to change or have changed. Most of the changes I can safely say I am not happy with. But I try to be positive about people who I deem close to me exiting my life or pulling away from me in one form or fashion....
In fact, I have a my very own friend mantra: some friends are here for a day; some for a season; and others for a lifetime.
It's funny to me (well not really) how the girlfriend I've known the longest (we go back to pre-school) I barely talk to. In fact, I don't really consider her a friend...more of an acquaintance. She's a sweet as pie, but I guess we just grew a part a long time ago. Once you've grown a part can you ever really grow together again? My answer: probably not.
As I reflect over my 28 years, I realize that many of my "friends" are people that were in my life for a season. Now I know I'm not the easiest person to be around sometimes, but all in all, I still consider it a pleasure (for the most part) to be in my company. Truthfully, I can only see one of my friends being in my life for a lifetime. I have mixed emotions about that; in a way I'm ecstatic because my girl has been right there to talk me off the metaphoric ledge and celebrated the good times with me. She totally accepts me for who I am, but she's not scared to tell me girl you wrong. So its nice to know that I'll have someone like that in my life permanently. However, its also nice to have more than one person (outside of God and family) to share your thoughts with, hang with, etc. But these days I'm more of a flow wit it kinda girl plus I find that the less people know ya bizness the less DRAMA you have...LOL. So, I don't see any people being added to my friend repertoire anytime soon.
Now don't get me wrong, I appreciate the people in my life, but sometimes I feel like my relationships are unbalanced or one-sided if you will. BFFdom is a two-way street and a lot of times I feel like I give more to those friendships than the other parties do. In the past I've blamed it on technology, i.e., folks just preferring to text me, FB me, tweet me, etc. But real talk: people make time for things they want to make time for. I mean sometimes you don't really feel like picking up the phone and having a 2 hour conversation when you have so many other things going on. BUT, every now and again, it doesn't hurt to pick up the phone, or drop by to see how your friend is doing. I admit, I too have been guilty of the I'm the kinda friend that will only hit you up using technology so don't expect to hear my voice for at least 3 months, but I am making a very big effort to do better and hopefully my friends will too.
Life's too short folks and non of us are Benjamin Button! And that is my friendship confessions :)
Now I have a question: do you think in your late 20's and beyond you still have BFF's?
